Dr Tom LaHue, Enneagram Enneagram: Difference Between 9w8 and 9w1
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Nov 30, 2023 A lively dive into how two Type 9 wings differ: one blends calm peacemaking with assertive strength, the other pairs harmony with idealistic order. The conversation explores anger expression, conflict patterns, boundaries, and comfort-seeking. It highlights creative tendencies, passive aggression risks, and a practical challenge to move from avoidance into action.
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Why Type Nine Sacrifices Self For Harmony
- Type Nine avoids conflict by adopting others' views to create peace and harmony.
- Tom LaHue explains this preserves external relationships but erases parts of the nine's own identity and desires.
Wake Up And State Your Wants
- Wake up to your wants and state them aloud so your needs get equal attention with others'.
- Tom LaHue urges nines to reconnect with inner desires, dreams, and goals rather than living a watered-down life.
Nines Hide Anger Between Eights And Ones
- Nines sit between angry types (8 and 1) and tend to go to sleep to their anger rather than express it.
- LaHue links this to the nine's default to harmonize, contrasting visible anger of eights and restrained anger of ones.