FT Tech Tonic Artificial intimacy: The AI therapist that ended a marriage
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Mar 4, 2026 
Yael Schonbrunn, clinical psychologist and relationship therapist, weighs in on chatbots’ limits for relational work. Kirstie, who used ChatGPT for emotional support, recounts how its advice reshaped her marriage. They explore how AI mimics empathy, when it feels safer than therapy, and the risks of chatbot validation in fraught relationships.
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Eliza Effect Explains Why Chatbots Feel Human
- Pat Pataranatapon recounts ELIZA's history and the Eliza effect where simple pattern responses make people attribute human minds to chatbots.
- Weizenbaum's 1960s program used question follow-ups and keyword repeats to create convincing intimacy despite primitive tech.
Use Chatbots To Reinforce Concrete Boundaries
- Kirstie deliberately asked ChatGPT for 'brutally honest' feedback to push herself rather than be coddled.
- She used the chatbot to set and reinforce concrete boundaries like not tolerating yelling or unpaid household labor.
AI Could Close A Massive Mental Health Access Gap
- Miranda Wolpert highlights a huge access gap: around a billion people need mental health support and roughly 75% get none.
- Properly developed AI could expand reach if trained and governed for specific clinical uses.