My Favorite Mistake: Learning Without Blame in Business and Leadership Therapist Emily Learing’s Child Care Program Mistake Could Have Been Worse, Opened New Possibilities
Mental Health Professional, Children's Book Author, and more
My guest for Episode #177 of the My Favorite Mistake podcast is Emily Learing, LMFT, RPT-S. She is a mental health professional based in South Dakota, at her practice called Encompass Mental Health.
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Emily has an MA in Marriage and Family Therapy and a BS in Human Development and Family Studies. She’s a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and a Registered Play Therapist. She has a blog called Disciplined Children.
Emily is the author of a fantastic children’s book: Henry Knows Best!: A Story About Learning From Mistakes and Listening to Others. I read it and found important lessons and reminders for me as an adult.
In this episode, Emily tells her favorite mistake story about setting up a child care center that was intended to attend to mental health needs — but the phone rang off the hook with people wanting and needing typical day care services. Why did she close the door to that program and how did that open the door to other possibilities? How did Emily manage to keep this in the realm of a small mistake that wasn't catastrophically expensive?
We also talk about questions and topics including:
- Tell us what inspired you to write the book? Again, the title is Henry Knows Best!: A Story About Learning From Mistakes and Listening to Others
- Oppositional Defiance Disorder vs just liking to say no?
- How many kids are like Henry?
- The consequences of always knowing best – damaged relationships?
- Overconfidence vs. narcissism
- “If you think you need help, you probably need help…”
- Some of my previous guests have admitted that they didn’t listen to experts when they should have — that they knew best… Congressman Will Hurd and Jim McCann founder of 1-800-FLOWERS.
- You say “I’m not a perfect person… I make mistakes… I don’t expect perfection… that’s not reality” — how does admitting that help clients, how does it help you work with clients?
- Does it help others open up to you?
- Having to live the values you’re stating about not being perfect…
- Being a play therapist
- On your blog, you write about games that can be used to help kids with ADHD develop their attention spans. Tell us about that…
- Tell us more about the podcast… “The Informed Parent” (coming soon)
- A BONUS favorite mistake from Emily