Psychology In Seattle Podcast Dating Advice #3 (2020 Rerun)
Feb 5, 2026
Practical dating questions get explored with blunt, clinical clarity. Topics include spotting controlling behavior, recovering from infidelity or domestic violence, and handling libido or attachment differences. Advice covers negotiating non-monogamy, maintaining identity in relationships, and when to seek therapy or couples work. Safety, consent, and communication are recurring themes throughout.
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Interrupt Triggers Early
- Get trauma-specialist therapy and learn to spot low-level distress early so you can intervene before full triggering.
- Tell your partner when you're at a 'three' of distress and use planned coping steps together.
Change The Dynamic, Not Just The Person
- Work on your own boundaries and recovery first to change a narcissistic dynamic from the inside out.
- Expect long, slow change and involve individual and couples therapy if safety allows.
Abuse Can Be Situational And Treatable
- Abuse exists on a spectrum and many people unknowingly behave abusively when triggered.
- Labeling abusive behavior clearly in therapy helps perpetrators see consequences and change.