Missionary Isn’t Boring, You’re Just Doing It Wrong

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Apr 21, 2026

A fresh take on why missionary gets a bad rap and how small changes make it electrifying. Techniques for reliable clitoral stimulation during penetration are broken down. Practical tips for adding toys, shifting angles, and asking for more intensity without conflict. Suggestions for kinky variations and scripts to bring dominance and presence into the bedroom.

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INSIGHT

Missionary Is An Intimacy Power Position

Missionary offers unmatched intimacy and multi-zone access for partnered sex.
Emily Morse highlights eye contact, skin-to-skin, slow makeout potential, and easy toy integration as unique missionary strengths.

INSIGHT

Missionary Lets You Access All Erogenous Zones

Missionary offers the most erotic zones in reach, making it versatile for kink and toy play.
Emily lists ears, neck, armpits, scalp, anus, and multiple toy placements as reasons missionary is adaptable.

ADVICE

Make Missionary Intentional Not Passive

Make missionary intentional rather than passive by communicating and moving actively.
Use hands, toys, pillows, hip circles, and kegel squeezes to control stimulation and avoid lying still.

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I know what you're thinking. Missionary? Really? But hear me out, because I genuinely believe missionary might be the most underrated position in existence, and the reason most people are bored by it has nothing to do with the position itself. It has everything to do with what they're not doing in it.

In this episode, I'm breaking down every missionary myth, sharing the techniques that actually work for clitoral stimulation during penetration, and answering your listener's questions on everything from G-spot orgasms to asking your partner to bend you over the kitchen table.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why the porn version of penetrative sex works for only about 30% of vulva owners and what the rest of us actually need to get there, including the CAT technique that makes missionary the best position for clitoral stimulation

• How to tell your partner you want them to dominate you, talk dirty, and bring more intensity to sex without making them feel like they've been doing it wrong this whole time

• Why incorporating a vibrator into partnered sex is one of the best things you can do for your sex life, and how to ask for it even if you're a people pleaser who's spent years putting everyone else's comfort before your own pleasure

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Chapters:

0:00 - Intro

1:03 - What's Actually Great About Missionary (That Most People Miss)

5:26 - Dispelling the Myth That Missionary Is Boring

8:21 - The CAT Technique: Best Missionary Position for Clitoral Stimulation

9:29 - Listener Question: Mental Block Around Trying New Positions

13:15 - Dispelling the Myth That Missionary Can't Be Kinky

13:28 - Listener Question: How to Ask Your Partner to Be More Dominant

18:27 - Dispelling the Myth That Vulva Owners Can't Orgasm in Missionary

19:02 - Listener Question: Clitoral vs. Penetrative Orgasms & the G-Spot Explained

23:32 - Listener Question: How to Use a Vibrator During Missionary Without the Bulk

26:06 - A Note to People Pleasers: Your Pleasure Matters Too

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