Life Matters - Full program podcast Getting what you want in the bedroom and discovering infidelity after death
Mar 5, 2026
Cam Fraser, a sex coach who helps men overcome performance anxiety, and Tanya Coons, a clinical sexologist focused on libido and communication, explore the orgasm gap, barriers to intimacy and how to ask for what you want in bed. They discuss building an erotic menu, practical scripts for low desire, solo pleasure and navigating hormonal changes and consent in modern relationships.
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Use Quick Pre Sex Agreements
- Have short, specific pre-sex conversations that set realistic boundaries for the moment.
- Tanya Coons recommends lines like "I don't need an orgasm tonight" or "let's make out on the sofa for 15 minutes" to keep connection without pressure.
Orgasm Coaching Changed Her Solo Sex Life
- Stormy, a gay woman, described learning orgasm techniques from a former girlfriend who coached her through solo pleasure.
- That coaching transformed her ability to experience tactile arousal and made flirting more potent.
Therapy Rewrote A Troubled Sexual Past
- Cam Fraser shared his teenage struggles with premature ejaculation, erection issues and drinking to mask performance anxiety.
- He credits narrative therapy for rewriting harmful masculinity scripts and improving intimacy.