ADHD reWired 248 | Reset ADHD - Alex Hey
Alex Hey, an ADHD coach from Sioux Falls, is on a mission to help adults reset their strategies for living with ADHD. He shares poignant insights from his personal journey, including his powerful poem written during a suicide crisis, which serves as a commitment to self-love and life. Alex candidly discusses his background with depression and relationships, and how creative expression through poetry aids in healing. He also explores integrating faith into his coaching practice, aiming to provide supportive resources for young adults.
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Naming Rejection Sensitivity Helps
- Discovery of rejection sensitive dysphoria gave Alex a naming for his intense reactions to perceived rejection.
- Naming the phenomenon helped him recognize and normalize why brief social slights hit so hard.
Catch And Reframe Self-Criticism
- Do notice and correct self-critical thoughts early by catching them and offering yourself supportive statements.
- Try writing affirmations or even a love poem to yourself to build internal validation and counter rejection-seeking.
A Meta Love Poem To Self
- Alex shared a meta love-poem that instructs himself to write a love poem after being dumped twice.
- The poem became a therapeutic prompt to rediscover self-worth and capacity to love again.
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Intro
00:00 • 2min
Meet Alex Hey and Reset ADHD
01:51 • 4min
Alex's Suicide Poem and Promise to Stay
05:23 • 2min
Context Behind the Poem
07:03 • 2min
ADHD Diagnosis and Depression History
08:53 • 1min
Breakups, Emotional Storms, and RSD
10:06 • 3min
Learning to Self-Support
12:58 • 2min
Write a Love Poem to Yourself
15:17 • 1min
Alex's Poetry Journey
16:20 • 1min
How Ideas Become Poems
17:33 • 1min
Storytelling's Power for ADHD
18:40 • 2min
Identifying Negative Thoughts with CBT
20:31 • 5min
Curiosity Instead of Avoidance
25:27 • 6min
Ad break
31:02 • 3min
Faith, Prayer, and ADHD
34:17 • 4min
Adapting Spiritual Practice for ADHD
38:00 • 11sec
Launching Reset ADHD Practice
38:11 • 2min
Why Alex Became an ADHD Coach
40:28 • 2min
Who Alex Wants to Coach
42:01 • 2min
Faith-Based ADHD Coaching Possibilities
43:33 • 2min
Community Outreach and Schools
45:16 • 1min
Growing a Coaching Practice by Speaking
46:38 • 3min
ADHD Across the Lifespan and Hope
49:21 • 2min
Growth Mindset Resources
51:10 • 2min
Personal Notes: New Puppy and Life
53:33 • 18sec
Final Reflections on Imperfection
53:52 • 3min
How to Reach Alex
56:37 • 53sec
Outro
57:30 • 6min
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I am joined on this episode by Alex Hey. Alex is a new ADHD coach from Sioux Falls, South Dakota. He is launching his new coaching practice, Reset ADHD. His mission is to help people hit the reset button on their ADHD. Alex is turning his mess into his message. Alex has had to hit the reset button a fair number of times in his life. In this conversation, you will hear Alex share some of his poetry, which is what made Alex stand out to me and invite him onto the podcast. Alex provides us with some of his backstory, which includes a diagnosis about five years ago. Alex also talks about his coaching service, Reset ADHD, and the unique perspective he has. This episode does contain a conversation around suicide. If you experiencing suicidal thoughts and you don't know where to turn, here are resources for help: United States - https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ Outside of the US - http://suicideprevention.wikia.com/wiki/Online Connect with Alex Hey: Website - http://ResetADHD.com Twitter - @ResetADHD Instagram - @ResetADHD Pinterest - https://www.pinterest.com/resetadhd/ Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/resetadhd You'll Learn: [05:23] - Alex reads a poem he wrote. I previously heard Alex read this, and it's a big reason he's on this episode. [07:00] - Alex shares some of the background information behind this poem. [08:50] - Alex was diagnosed at the age of 20, and describes his history with depression. [10:23] - Alex describes the role that his relationships have played in his breakthrough. [11:57] - We talk about Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria. [12:56] - Seeking support for yourself is vital, and Alex talks about his progress in this area. [15:16] - Alex reads his love poem. [17:35] - Alex describes his poem-writing process, and we discuss the power of storytelling. [20:55] - Alex shares some of the thoughts that he corrects, and he describes the process. [29:36] - I share that when I'm in the moment of "the suck," what is helpful for me is to stay curious about what I can gain from the experience. [35:05] - Alex talks about the role of prayer and faith. [37:59] - Alex shares some information on his business, Reset ADHD. He also explains why he decided to become an ADHD coach. [43:20] - We talk about the state of Christian-based ADHD coaching. [45:45] - I explain how giving free talks can help grow a coaching business. [51:09] - Alex has written a four-part blog post about the growth mindset. [53:20] - Live life in permanent beta. Use my Audible.com affiliate link for your favorite titles: http://www.audibletrial.com/ADHDreWired ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Group Registration for the winter session of our ADHD reWired Coaching and Accountability Group is now in full swing. There are just four chances left to register for this session. To learn more or RSVP for the group registration, go to http://CoachingreWired.com. Support the podcast on Patreon Patreon allows listeners like you to support content creators like me. With a monthly contribution, you can get access to different levels of perks. One perk example is our Patreon-only Adult Study Hall. Learn more at http://patreon.com/adhdrewired ADHD reWired Facebook Group: If you would like to join the ADHD reWired secret Facebook group, go to EricTivers.com/community and fill out an application. Productivity Q&A Get your ADHD questions answered live! These Q&A sessions take place on the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 12:30 pm. Go to http://erictivers.com/events. Want to be a guest? Hey, What about you? Do you have a story? Are you a Coach? Are you an ADHD Clinician? If you answered "yes" to any of these questions and you'd like to be a guest, schedule a pre-interview call here.