How To! with Mike Pesca ENCORE Now Is the Time to Escape Your Bad Relationship. Here's How.
Feb 3, 2026
Logan Ury, behavioral scientist and dating coach at Hinge and author of How to Not Die Alone, helps a lonely woman navigate breaking off a friends-with-benefits relationship. She gets practical prep for the breakup, a step-by-step accountability plan, and post-breakup self-care. Logan also explores building community, making friends as 'other significant others,' and treating dating like an experiment.
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Dance Partnership Turned Sexual Relationship
- Sarah became intimate with her dance partner Matthew during the pandemic after they were assigned as partners.
- Their tango led to sex and a friends-with-benefits arrangement that she later regretted.
Reframe Breakup As Opportunity
- Loss aversion makes breakups feel much worse than equivalent gains feel good.
- Reframing the breakup as an opportunity helps you climb the painful transition toward building something new.
Make A Concrete Breakup Plan
- Write a letter to yourself listing clear reasons why the relationship isn't right and set a deadline to have the breakup conversation.
- Name an accountability partner and put a concrete consequence on the line if you miss the deadline.
