Ladies, We Need To Talk Is your attachment style messing with your love life?
Apr 13, 2026
Dr Hannah Korrel, clinical neuropsychologist and psychologist with a PhD in neuroscience, breaks down attachment theory in plain terms. She explains secure, anxious and avoidant patterns. Short segments cover origins like the Strange Situation, how styles form and change, why we chase unavailable partners, and practical ways to self-soothe and repair relationships.
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Attachment Styles Defined By Early Bonding
- Attachment theory groups adult relationship patterns into secure, anxious, and avoidant styles based on early caregiver bonds.
- The Strange Situation showed secure kids seek comfort then explore, anxious kids cling, and avoidant kids push caregivers away.
Strange Situation Example Shows Child Reactions
- Mary Ainsworth's Strange Situation observed babies' responses to a stranger and their mother's return to classify attachment.
- Secure babies soothed then played, anxious babies stayed distressed, avoidant babies ignored or pushed the parent away.
Disorganised Attachment Signals Trauma
- A fourth disorganised attachment style exists where children alternate between seeking closeness and pushing away.
- It often links to traumatic or chaotic caregiving rather than a single consistent pattern.
