Bouondaries Are All About You with Carol the Coach

In this segment Carol the Coach  will be discussing boundaries with Jocelyn Hamsher. Boundaries are defined as a set of expectations and limits we have around our interactions with ourselves and others. They help us keep our side of the street clean and sets our relationships up for success because we are able to communicate our expectations in a healthy way. Boundaries are not about manipulating or changing anyone else, they are solely about protecting ourselves. A good way to determine areas of our life that may need boundaries is to look for pain points in our life and from there establish what we need in order to minimize the pain point. Often we struggle most with boundaries when we struggle with knowing what our wants and needs are, which is a symptom of unresolved trauma. Once we are able to identify our needs and wants, then we need to formulate boundaries to help get those met and then communicate them in a healthy way. This also includes action steps for instances where the other person chooses not to respect our boundaries. In sex addiction specifically, we need to establish boundaries around our pain points in recovery such as safe guards on technology and having consistent accountability.