everybody has a secret I did a thing (catfished my ex)
Mar 26, 2026
The hosts dig into wild ways people keep tabs on exes, from fake online identities to stalking routes and playlists. They unpack Declan McCollin’s playful “ex-axis” and place themselves on it. Listeners share tales of message snooping, LinkedIn lurks, and discovery of a surprise engagement ring. A main story recounts an elaborate catfishing stunt and the messy feelings that followed.
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Crush Theorem And Ex Axis Framework
- Declan McCollin's crush theorem and ex-axis offer frameworks to categorise romantic attention and past partners.
- The crush theorem prescribes four concurrent crushes for different emotional functions; the ex-axis maps exes across evil–too good and productive–unproductive dimensions.
Use The Ex Axis To Decide Reconnecting
- Use the ex-axis as a decision tool to judge whether reconnecting with an ex is productive or harmful.
- Place exes into quadrants like 'backslide' (evil+unproductive) or 'Icarus zone' (too good+productive) to inform whether to message them.
Running Ex's Route While Playing Their Playlist
- A listener ran her ex's Strava route playing his Spotify running playlist aloud hoping to bump into him.
- She admitted doing it five or six times and never saw him, calling the behaviour embarrassing in retrospect.