279 | Parenting With the End in Mind, Dissecting the Nuances of Discipline, and Following God's Plan for Your Family (Amanda Carrara)

May 25, 2023

Amanda Carrara, parenting coach and writer who leads Revival Parenting, offers a faith-rooted lens on family rhythms. She discusses parenting from the heart, pausing to notice a child’s experience, working backwards from the adult you want them to be, and using empathy-first repair and discipline to cultivate connection.

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Work Backwards From Your Kids' Launch

Picture your children as launched adults and work backwards to choose daily values.
Amanda advises journaling specific traits you want each child to have and then design present rhythms that train those traits.

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Parenting Begins With Your Own Relationship With God

Parenting capacity flows from how much you've received from your Heavenly Father first.
Amanda links 1 John 4 and says you can't fully show up for kids until you receive that love inwardly.

ADVICE

Notice Your Feelings Before You React

Notice and name your emotions so you can choose your response.
Amanda reminds dads emotions are real and says Ephesians: feeling anger isn't sin, the response matters.

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Are you parenting in the same way God parents you? This is one of the big questions Amanda Carrara asks in this episode. As a mother, writer, and parenting coach, she shares valuable knowledge and wisdom about how to create connection in your home by looking at parenting from a new perspective.

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Key Takeaways

When your children successfully launch from your house, what characteristics do you want them to have?
Being a parent is an invitation to lean into a relationship with your Heavenly Father.
You keep yourself from experiencing the joys of parenthood when you deny negative emotions such as frustration.
The #1 hidden parenting tool is to pause and acknowledge your child's experiences.
Do you have margin in your life for sacred interruptions?

Amanda Carrara

Amanda Carrara is a speaker, writer, and parenting coach passionate about helping others experience a parenting revival. Amanda and her husband have three children and live in Mahtomedi, Minnesota.

Key Quotes

8:29 - "I always say that parenting begins within us. So I think about the scripture from 1 John 4 that we love because He first loved us. And so as a parent we actually don't have the capacity to show up for our kids the way that we really want the desire that we have until we've received that from the Father. And so being a parent is actually a gift and an invitation to lean in your relationship with your Heavenly Father. And so it's all of that outpouring of receiving from Him that we can give to our kids."
12:58 - "There is so much power in the pause. Your tool is noticing your child's experience."

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