Bypass or contentment: listener question

First of all, I am so happy with your courses and podcasts. I learned so much! And with your openness and honesty and vulnerability and down to earth spirituality  I could not thing of a better teacher for me!

I am writing to you because I am not sure of one concurrent issue in my thought patterns and that is „not having a partner and wanting one“ 

I see a pattern of thinking about it, making it „my big life problem“  but not doing anything (which means not being on a dating platform or meeting anybody). I am very happy in my life, I am  independent, have a handful of close, life-long friends, never feel bored or lonely and plenty of things to do all the time (reading, enjoying nature, enjoying just being etc). But still there is this nagging thought something is wrong with me because I do not have a partner...

The point which I do not get: Is it spiritual bypassing (thinking I do not need one), is it not facing my childhood issues (in not going on dating sites, „just" pretending that I enjoy my independence), is it completely suited for me not being in a longterm stable partnership and just the ego which desperately seeks a bone to keep? What is it? 

Which I can see as well is the ego wrapping its thoughts around one thing , because there is not much else left for it to keep itself alive… 

Which I can se is comfortable to fill my head with, and listen to relationship podcasts and follow dating advices, it’s like a good old friend who is always there and keeps me entertained… (but then again, is this spiritual-bypassing and not facing whatever I have to face?)