Have you ever heard a speaker share a story and have one of these reactions:
#1: Wow, I really feel connected to what this person is saying. I have a new perspective on my own situation.
-OR-
#2: Why is this person telling this story? I don't get how this relates to the rest of their content or why I should care or this feels icky.
You don't want to end up being the speaker where the people in the audience are having the second reaction.
You want your stories to have purpose and meaning and be of service to your audience.
This conversation came directly from questions we hear all the time from women in our Thought Leader Academy:
- Is sharing my personal story self-indulgent?
- How vulnerable is too vulnerable?
- Can storytelling cross the line into manipulation?
The short answer? Yes, it can. And that’s exactly why how you tell your story matters just as much as what you share.
In this episode, Diane Diaz and I dig into:
- What makes a story feel authentic vs. forced or manipulative
- Why stories should always be in service of the audience, not the speaker
- Common storytelling mistakes (TMI, rags-to-riches formulas, shaming language, and oversmoothing the edges)
- How vulnerability builds trust - when it’s grounded in reflection and purpose
- Why imperfect stories often create the strongest audience connection
We also share real examples—from our own speaking experiences and from Thought Leader Academy clients—of how telling the truth (even when it doesn’t make you look perfect) can be incredibly powerful, freeing, and impactful.
If you want your stories to:
- Deepen audience connection
- Build credibility instead of skepticism
- Support your message instead of distracting from it
…this episode will help you rethink how you use storytelling in your talks, podcasts, and brand messaging.
(This episode originally aired as episode 350 on October 9, 2023.
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