The Baggage Reclaim Sessions Ep. 127: Bark Like A Dog?
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Feb 15, 2019 A conversation about the gap between the person you present on dates and your true self. A film scene is used as a playful metaphor for performance in relationships. The discussion explores how beliefs, family stories and online profiles shape dating personas. Practical ideas on authenticity, boundaries and recognizing when a persona is taking over are highlighted.
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Performing To Please
- Natalie Lue recounts the Coming to America scene where a bride barks like a dog to prove obedience.
- She uses it to illustrate how people perform roles to win relationships rather than being themselves.
The Dating Persona Concept
- Natalie explains the 'dating and relationship self' as a persona people present to attract partners.
- This persona is often a glossier or watered-down version of the authentic self shaped by past experiences and rules.
Shed The Persona To Build Intimacy
- Recognize and shed the dating persona as relationships move past stage two to progress intimacy.
- Prioritize being yourself to allow real intimacy to develop.