Porn Free Radio 249 - Perfectionism Pt. 1
Feb 24, 2021
A deep dive into how perfectionism hides as image maintenance and derails recovery. Ten revealing signs are unpacked through quick, relatable scenarios. Topics include avoiding help, hiding mistakes, all-or-nothing thinking, procrastination, harsh self-criticism, and the cost of protecting a polished image.
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Check If You Avoid Asking For Help
- Do check whether you have trouble asking for help as a sign of perfectionism.
- Matt shares that men avoid calling others because they fear being a burden, which keeps them isolated in recovery.
Fear Of Looking Bad Fuels Hiding
- Fear of looking bad drives hiding, lying, and minimizing when truth conflicts with your image.
- Early recovery deficits in skill and competency intensify the urge to protect appearance rather than seek help.
Stop Minimizing Slips And Name The Failure
- Avoid minimising failures after a slip; name them instead of softening them.
- Matt notes lines like "I didn't do it long" or "it wasn't that hardcore" are common minimizations to watch for.