Ladies, We Need To Talk The case against hookup sex with Hannah Ferguson
Jul 8, 2024
Hannah Ferguson, media founder and author who explores modern womanhood, questions whether hookup culture serves women's sexual wellbeing. She recounts painful early experiences, critiques how porn and apps shape expectations, and discusses consent, boundaries, and the loss of real sexual communication. She also reflects on finding a healthier relationship after the swipe culture.
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Painful First Sex From Vaginismus
- Hannah Ferguson describes first sex at 20 being painful due to vaginismus and psychological fear.
- She endured early encounters, went through the motions without enthusiastic consent and felt compelled to have sex because she thought she should.
Sex Positivity Outran Practical Education
- Hannah argues sex positivity outpaced education so women were told to have casual sex without learning how to identify or advocate for their desires.
- That gap left many following a patriarchal script of sex as empowerment rather than understanding their own wants.
Being Choked During Casual Sex And Freezing
- Hannah recounts casual sex encounters where men put hands on her neck without asking and she didn't stop them, later recognising it as violence against her boundaries.
- She describes freezing and dissociating in the moment despite having a public feminist profile and feeling embarrassed afterwards.
