127. Silence After the Decision: Overcommunicating as a Trauma Response

For daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers, silence often doesn’t feel neutral. It can feel dangerous, like trouble is coming, like you’ve done something wrong. So we fill it. With explanations. With apologies. With reassurance.

In this episode, we explore how overcommunicating and overfunctioning develop as trauma responses, why sitting in silence can feel unbearable, and what it means to tolerate the aftermath of a decision without rescuing yourself or managing other people’s reactions.

If you’ve ever struggled with:

• overcommunicating as a trauma response

• feeling anxious when people don’t respond right away

• needing reassurance after setting boundaries

• people-pleasing or overfunctioning

• trusting yourself after narcissistic parenting

this conversation will likely resonate. We’ll reflects on what it means to “try soft and say less,” , how silence can activate old patterns from childhood, and why learning to tolerate being misunderstood is often a necessary part of healing and self-trust.

You don’t need to fix anything after listening. Just noticing the urge to fill the silence is already the work.