Good Life Project Relationship Agreements: A Powerful Way to Deepen Love & Lessen Conflict | Krista & Will Van Derveer
Mar 16, 2026
Will Van Derveer, psychiatrist and author known for work on psychedelic therapy, and Krista Van Derveer, relational leadership educator who helps partnerships shift to a We operating system. They explore crafting sacred relationship agreements, the surprising somatic "Couch Time" cooling technique, the Abundant Repair protocol to end tension, and how to see your partner with fresh eyes to protect connection.
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First Date Became A Partnership Blueprint
- Krista adapted organizational agreements she used in companies to create relationship agreements with Will after meeting later in life.
- Their first-date conversation immediately included designing a partnership that served the world, not just a private love oasis, and they closed the restaurant talking for hours.
Move From I Operating System To We Operating System
- They reframe relationships as a We Operating System where the couple pursues a shared mission beyond individual needs.
- That shared mission guides which agreements matter and how each person must grow to fulfill the couple's purpose.
Repair Until Bodies Want Closeness
- Use Abundant Repair: keep working a rupture until both bodies feel safe and want physical closeness again.
- Their litmus test for repair is somatic: relaxation and desire for proximity, not just an intellectual apology.
