How To Fail With Elizabeth Day ON IVF… With Jessel Taank and Paloma Faith
Dec 1, 2025
Jessel Taank, a star from The Real Housewives of New York, shares her emotional three-year IVF journey, revealing the toll it took on her marriage and finances before the joyous arrival of twins. Singer Paloma Faith opens up about her haunting ectopic pregnancy and postpartum psychosis, navigating the complexities of motherhood while dealing with mental health struggles. Together, they discuss the often-hidden realities of IVF, societal pressures on women, and the balancing act between career aspirations and motherhood.
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IVF Feels Like A Second Full-Time Job
- Elizabeth Day describes IVF as taking on a whole other job that adds relentless uncertainty to an already busy life.
- That role conflicts sharply with people used to applying themselves and expecting reliable results.
Medical Language Fuels Shame
- Medical language around fertility often frames women as failing, which implants shame and self-blame.
- That language can worsen psychological harm during treatment.
Cost, Blame And Twins After Five Rounds
- Jessel and her husband spent roughly $100k–$150k on fertility treatment and she admits she often blamed him emotionally.
- After five rounds she begged for a double embryo transfer and ended up pregnant with twins.