On this episode of The Patrick Madrid Show, Patrick reads an email from a listener who's freaking out about her first confession. She’s new to the Catholic Church, nervous about the whole process, and weighed down by a big sin from her past (she had an abortion). She’s scared of what the priest will think and honestly just has no idea what to expect. Patrick has practical advice and some solid reassurance.

Confession Isn’t as Scary as You Think

Patrick explains:

Confession is straight-up biblical. Jesus set it up in John 20 when He gave the apostles the authority to forgive sins. This isn’t some Church-made checklist; it’s how Jesus wanted us to experience His mercy.

It’s healing. Saying your sins out loud can feel super awkward, but it’s also incredibly freeing. Patrick compares it to going to the doctor. It’s not fun to put on that paper-thin gown, but the healing is 100% worth it.

Practical Tips for Your First Time Step 1: Prepare

Examine Your Conscience. Basically, take stock of your life and be honest about where you’ve fallen short. Don’t overthink it! Apps like Relevant Radio and its Confession Helper can walk you through this step-by-step.

Stick to “Number and Kind.” All you need to do is say the sin (e.g., lying, gossiping, etc.) and how often it happened (or your best guess). No need to spill every gory detail.

Step 2: Keep It Simple in the Confessional

Start with: “Bless me, Father, for I have sinned. This is my first confession. I’m [age] and joining the Church.”

Be honest and to the point. The priest doesn’t need a dramatic backstory: just tell him what happened.

Step 3: Choose Your Priest Wisely

It's OK to go to a priest you don’t know. You can go to a different parish if that helps you feel more anonymous.

What About “Big” Sins?

Patrick gets real about sins like abortion. He’s crystal clear: God’s mercy is bigger than any sin. The priest isn’t there to judge you: He’s there to help you leave that sin at the foot of the cross and move forward in freedom.

What Happens in the Confessional?

Act of Contrition: You’ll say a short prayer of sorrow. Don’t panic if you don’t know it: the priest can help.

Penance: The priest will give you something to do to show your sorrow, like a prayer or an act of devotion.

Absolution: This is the big moment. Your sins are forgiven, gone forever.

Why You’ll Feel AMAZING Afterward

Patrick guarantees you’ll walk out feeling lighter than air. The weight of your sins? Gone. The shame? Gone. It’s all about freedom and peace, and you’ll feel that wave of relief the second the priest says the words of absolution.

Patrick’s Final Word: Don’t Overthink It

Confession might feel intimidating, but it’s worth it. God isn’t there to condemn you: He’s ready to forgive and welcome you back with open arms. Take a deep breath, trust in His mercy, and go for it.

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