We Can Do Hard Things Jen Hatmaker: What Are You Pretending Not to Know?
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Sep 23, 2025 
Join bestselling author and advocate Jen Hatmaker as she delves into the profound truths about confronting inner turmoil. She candidly shares the moment she discovered her husband's infidelity and the painful repercussions of living in denial. Jen discusses her journey through codependency, the power of reclaiming agency, and rethinking faith amidst personal upheaval. Embracing vulnerability, she also reflects on the unexpected joys of preparing for grandmotherhood while navigating her newfound freedom.
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Eviction Notice vs. Early Choice
- Waiting for an "eviction notice" hands away personal agency and usually increases trauma and loss.
- Some people choose change early; many must endure flames to reach freedom.
Prioritize Health Over Staying For Appearances
- Consider that staying 'for the children' can harm everyone if the marriage is toxic.
- Prioritize raising healthy adults rather than preserving an unhealthy household for appearances.
A Lifetime Of Shape-Shifting
- Jen describes a lifetime of 'shape-shifting' to keep peace, which she later identified as codependency.
- She cleaned up others' behaviors and managed impressions from early in the relationship onward.
