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666. Birth Trauma, Soul Contracts, & Raising Kids Outside the Matrix w/ Eyla Cuenca

May 12, 2026
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Eyla Cuenca
Eyla Cuenca, doula and founder of Uncovering Birth with ~15 years supporting births and training birthworkers. She talks about ancestral grief surfacing in labor, transforming identity after becoming a parent, and the nervous-system effects of postpartum phone use. Conversations expand into soul-choice around birth, reincarnation and soul fractals, and practical concerns like hospital paperwork and placenta handling.
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ADVICE

Let Kids Be Bored To Grow Creativity

  • Allow children to be bored and give them access to everyday life so they learn creativity and observation rather than hand them screens as entertainment.
  • Eyla cites her childhood doing tasks in a family market and her daughter's outdoor play producing detailed drawings as examples.
INSIGHT

Postpartum Phone Use Disrupts Attachment

  • Phone addiction in postpartum undermines maternal-downregulation and infant attachment by fracturing presence during breastfeeding and early bonding.
  • Eyla references Edward Tronick's still-face experiments and observes mothers hugging babies to the breast while scrolling, producing dysregulated infants.
INSIGHT

Move Beyond Birth Ideology To Individual Alchemy

  • Eyla moved away from polarizing 'hospital vs free birth' rhetoric and focuses on each mother's alchemical process and goals rather than enforcing ideology.
  • She supports women in hospitals or home births depending on their needs, emphasizing informed consent and personal maturation.
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