This Is Actually Happening 387: What if your partner accused you of attempted murder?
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Dec 9, 2025 Anonymous, an anesthesia provider in California, shares a gripping first-person account of being falsely accused of attempted murder by his partner. He explores his childhood background of trauma and abandonment, the pressures of caretaking, and the impact of loss. The narrative delves into his experiences with legal turmoil and the dehumanizing conditions in jail, culminating in the relief of having the charges dismissed. Ultimately, he reflects on the journey of rebuilding his life, learning self-compassion, and addressing deep-seated patterns of self-abandonment.
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Nine Years Of Caregiving And Codependency
- He entered a nine-year relationship that became codependent, marked by his partner's high-functioning drinking and his role as constant caretaker.
- Despite recurring problems, fear of being alone kept him staying and serially monogamous.
Cross-Country Rescue During A Psychotic Break
- In March 2021 he flew to Ohio when his partner had a psychotic break and brought her back, taking leave to support her care.
- He coordinated therapists and hospital care while feeling exhausted and responsible for her safety.
Discovering Nontherapeutic Ketamine Use
- He discovered his partner misusing ketamine at home, witnessed twice, and attempted interventions including therapists and AA.
- Their relationship then deteriorated into multiple providers supporting them and mounting tension.