Mind Pump: Raw Fitness Truth 1885: Dr. John Delony on Relationships, Mental Health & Crisis Management
Aug 22, 2022
Dr. John Delony, a mental health expert and podcast host, dives into the intricacies of relationships and crisis management. He discusses the importance of self-care for those helping others in distress. Delony emphasizes the impact of the pandemic on children’s emotional growth and shares insights on effective communication in parenting. He critiques the role of social media in activism and relationships, and highlights the value of therapy and genuine connections. Delony also reflects on the power of touch and the need for meaningful engagements in the digital age.
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Delony's Background
- Dr. John Delony's background includes being a dean of students and professor.
- He also worked in crisis response, inspired by his father's career as a SWAT negotiator.
Maintaining Mental Health in Crisis Work
- Maintain mental health while helping others in crisis by prioritizing self-care.
- Engage in physical activity, ensure adequate sleep, and establish a process for decompressing.
Defining Wisdom
- Wisdom combines personal experience, academic insight, and helping others.
- It involves self-reflection, studying, and guiding others on similar journeys.
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Intro
00:00 • 5min
Navigating Career Inspirations and Public Scrutiny in Mental Health
05:10 • 2min
Navigating Communication and Connection
06:59 • 28min
The Power of Touch and Digital Parenting
34:32 • 15min
Navigating Activism and Relationships in the Digital Age
49:11 • 25min
Navigating Relationships in a Digital Age
01:13:52 • 14min
The Power of Awareness in Fitness and Relationships
01:27:50 • 18min
The Psychology Behind Supplements and Lifestyle Choices
01:46:19 • 2min
The Power of Conversational Engagement in Podcasting
01:47:54 • 3min
The Dichotomy of Media Consumption: Long-Form vs. Quick Hits
01:50:28 • 3min
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In this episode Sal, Adam & Justin speak with Dr. John Delony.
- From nerd to YouTuber. (2:43)
- How do you stay mentally healthy helping people in crisis? (4:00)
- What makes him good at what he does? (7:31)
- Knowledge vs. Wisdom. (11:12)
- Helping your kids navigate the instant gratification landscape. (13:41)
- How your body puts GPS pins in things. (16:20)
- Marriage takes practice and communication. (24:00)
- The impact of the pandemic on our children's development. (29:11)
- The greatest virtue is isolation. (33:00)
- His opinions on social media. (42:18)
- The social media activist. (49:42)
- Why you can't wait until there is a THING to develop a relationship with your children. (53:35)
- The gifts you can give your children going through a divorce. (58:49)
- The steps you can take to begin to work on yourself. (1:02:43)
- The value of therapy. (1:09:53)
- The importance of live events and being in touch with your community. (1:13:10)
- The pros and cons of psychedelics. (1:17:35)
- What contributes to a successful relationship? (1:23:45)
- What makes a good counselor and patient? (1:31:13)
- His take on monogamy. (1:32:50)
- Have we pathologized discomfort? (1:40:23)
- What perpetuates the next fitness machine? (1:44:50)
- The battle for long-form conversations. (1:49:00)
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Featured Guest/People Mentioned
- Dr. John Delony (@johndelony) Instagram
- Warren Farrell, PhD (@drwarrenfarrell) Twitter
- Andrew Huberman, Ph.D. (@hubermanlab) Instagram
- Esther Perel (@estherperelofficial) Instagram
- Jordan Peterson (@jordan.b.peterson) Instagram