The Breakfast Club INTERVIEW: Jordan Carlos On Becoming A Better Partner, Emotional Maturity, New Book 'Choreplay' + More
Mar 13, 2026
Jordan Carlos, comedian, writer, and author of Choreplay, shares how household chores and invisible emotional labor shaped his relationship journey. He discusses COVID revealing domestic imbalance. Short routines like making coffee, handling trash, and using planning tools helped rebuild trust. He reframes chores with humor and stresses empathy, presence, and simple habits that transform partnerships.
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Do Small Chores Without Being Asked
- Do proactively do small household tasks without being asked to reduce emotional load and resentment.
- Jordan Carlos started making coffee, taking out trash on schedule, and checking supplies to reverse household imbalance and save his marriage.
Invisible Work Creates Relationship Safety
- Insight: Invisible work and baseline household needs create safety that enable intimacy and self-actualization.
- Jordan observed that when basic tasks weren't handled during COVID his wife's sense of security eroded and intimacy declined.
Start With Low Hanging Chore Habits
- Try low-hanging, repeatable habits (trash night, returning bins, changing TP) to build consistency.
- Jordan gamified chores, tracked trash night, and changed small items daily to create momentum and accountability.
