374 | What to Do When Children Want to Save What They Built - A CCPT Q&A

In this Q&A episode, I respond to a question from a school-based, mobile play therapist navigating what to do when children want to preserve, hide, or protect things they build in session. I unpack how this dynamic shifts when you are not in a static playroom and instead are setting up and tearing down each week. I explain how setting clear expectations from the very beginning protects the therapeutic relationship and prevents children from feeling betrayed when items are moved, found, or reset.

I also walk through the clinical judgment involved in deciding when something can reasonably be preserved and when it must be dismantled for the sake of other children's access. More importantly, I discuss how moments of disappointment, frustration, or perceived loss—when they arise organically—can be therapeutically meaningful. These are not agenda-driven opportunities we create, but natural experiences children sometimes need in order to build frustration tolerance, regulation, and emotional flexibility. Finally, I share practical considerations about Legos and why many CCPT playrooms choose alternative building materials.

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Common References: Cochran, N., Nordling, W., & Cochran, J. (2010). Child-Centered Play Therapy (1st ed.). Wiley. VanFleet, R., Sywulak, A. E., & Sniscak, C. C. (2010). Child-centered play therapy. Guilford Press. Landreth, G.L. (2023). Play Therapy: The Art of the Relationship (4th ed.). Routledge. Landreth, G.L., & Bratton, S.C. (2019). Child-Parent Relationship Therapy (CPRT): An Evidence-Based 10-Session Filial Therapy Model (2nd ed.). Routledge. https://doi.org/10.4324/9781315537948 Benedict, Helen. Themes in Play Therapy. Used with permission to Heartland Play Therapy Institute.