Ask Christopher West My Husband Has ED & Low “Sex-Drive”, Will Sexual Sin Ruin Marriage?, & My Husband Struggles With Porn—Will This Ever End? | ACW327
Questions answered this episode:
1. My husband and I are newly married and both committed to our faith. I came into marriage with a deep understanding of the sacredness of the marital embrace through TOB, but we quickly discovered I have a much higher sex drive, and he struggles with erectile dysfunction. It’s left me feeling rejected, unattractive, and alone—especially since women rarely talk about having stronger desire. I’m trying to love him through this, but I’m grieving how hard this is compared to what I imagined.
2. I’ve been on and off with a woman I feel deeply connected to—like home. That connection has led us into sexual sin many times, though we often go to confession. I truly love her, but I’m afraid our past intimacy might have harmed our chances of a holy marriage and family. If God is calling us to be together, have we already ruined something good?
3. My husband has struggled with porn since he was young, even though he always sensed it was wrong. He worked hard to stop, especially during our engagement, but relapsed a few times in marriage—mainly around postpartum seasons. He’s been free for over two years, but I’ve just had our third baby and feel anxious it could return. He’s otherwise loving and tender, and our sex life is beautiful. But I worry this may be a cross we carry forever. Is real healing possible?
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Resources mentioned this week:
List of trusted counselors & psychologists
Love & Responsibility YouTube Series
JPII Legacy Foundation Website
https://www.stevemotylcoaching.com/
What to Do With Your Sexual Needs YouTube Video
Sexual Needs Into Prayer YouTube Video
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