Into The Wild 446. Outgrowing Your Old Identity: How to Navigate the Messy Middle
This is the part of growth that no one talks about.
The messy middle (the sacred, stretchy space between who you were and who you're becoming) is something we're often not prepared for. During this time, you'll intuitively know something is changing, even if you haven't fully caught up with it yet.
When you're in the messy middle, it's not about chasing the next thing. It's about embracing the process of an identity shift. There's no standard timeline. There's no correct pace. And as you proceed to new levels, the messy middle will show up again. Over time, you can learn to honor it as you navigate through.
In this episode, you will learn about:
- What the messy middle feels like (even if you haven't noticed you're in it yet).
- Why pushing through the messy middle isn't the answer.
- Examples of how grief shows up when your identity is shifting.
- What my messy middle looked like and when my greatest moment of relief showed up.
- How to use the messy middle to integrate your next level of expansion.
- How the work of letting go can help you navigate the struggles of the messy middle.
- Why your nervous system needs to re-calibrate before you can embrace a new identity.
- What to do when you sense you're headed into times of high stress.
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