40. Rediscovering You: Reinventing Identity After Estrangement from Mom

Once you cut off contact with your mom, it can be hard to know who you are. What do you think, feel, and believe? What are your values?

You're so used to filtering them through your mother's perspective that it can be hard to know yourself.

How do you reintroduce yourself to yourself?

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Mentioned in this show: Relationship to Self Journal Prompts

Addition questions for reflection included in today's show:

As you go through your day and you consider your interactions you had, check in with yourself:

• How did you feel? Were you regulated in your body?
• Did you feel seen and respected?
• Did you feel safe?
• Walk yourself through the same thing as you consider your decision making process for the day.

It might be worth your time to create a daily check in journal for yourself where you quickly ask yourself these questions and jot your answers down:

• Did you feel good about your decisions?
• Did you feel good about your interactions?
• What did you need more of?
• Less of?
• Where did it get hard? When it got hard, what might you have needed or what might have made you feel more comfortable?
• Were there any boundaries you might have needed to set?

• When you look at the quality of your relationships, are you satisfied? Are there other toxic connections that might perhaps need to be toned down or removed in order to feel safer?

• When you are exposed to new ideas or approaches to things, get curious with yourself. How do I feel about that? Does that feel true for me? What would feel more true?