PsycHacks Episode 432: Strike when the iron is cold (the importance of waiting for your moment)
May 27, 2024
Learn about the importance of waiting for the right moment to address conflicts in relationships and improve communication. Explore strategies for speaking up calmly and handling emotional situations with clarity. Discover how timing plays a crucial role in communication outcomes and get insights on a GRE test prep program offering a discount code for listeners.
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How Waiting Ended My Heated Arguments
- Dr. Orion Taraban stopped having heated arguments after adopting a waiting tactic years ago.
- He credits the tactic because conflicts require two people and refusing to engage prevents fights from occurring.
Emotional Intensity Kills Persuasion
- Intense emotions compromise rational thinking so persuasive facts fall on deaf ears.
- Once emotional threshold is crossed, people hear comments through emotional lenses that trigger defensiveness and invalidation.
Strike When The Iron Is Cold
- Strike when the iron is cold: bring up issues absent emotionality to increase chances of being heard.
- Put the comment in your back pocket and wait for an unemotional opportunity to deliver it like a surgical strike.