#49: "The Giving Tree" Has Got To Go

In the episode, we discuss "The Giving Tree" by Shel Silverstein. It is a beloved book by many, but it is problematic to say the least. And altruistic healthcare workers using this as a model of self-sacrifice may want to reconsider.

Highlights:

• Self sacrifice is not sustainable, isn't healthy and can breed selfishness, narcissism and codependency.
• Those who neglect themselves at the expense of others suffer the consequences: anxiety, depression, and less efficacy.
• True generosity begets more generosity. 
• The most successful givers ALSO score highly in self concern.
• Self sacrifice doesn't model loving boundaries.
• Generosity and self sacrifice are not the same thing.
• Self sacrifice can create a mutually detrimental relationship for all.
• Healthy, loving boundaries can result in much better outcomes.

Resources:

https://www.shelsilverstein.com/9780060256654/the-giving-tree/

https://www.nytimes.com/2020/04/15/parenting/we-need-to-talk-about-the-giving-tree.html

http://www.curiata.com/content/3120.php

https://www.christopherroosen.com/blog/2021/5/29/why-i-cant-stand-the-giving-tree-by-shel-silverstein-a-picture-of-a-destructive-and-selfish-relationships

https://www.topherpayne.com/giving-tree

 

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