Everything Happens with Kate Bowler Living the Questions (Without Fixing Yourself) with Suleika Jaouad
Mar 24, 2026
Suleika Jaouad, writer and speaker who chronicles illness and recovery, joins to wrestle with living in unresolved questions. They explore ambition versus exhaustion, chronic illness and the limits of self-improvement. The conversation highlights quiet shifts, refusing the waiting room of life, and finding small joys without pretending everything can be fixed.
AI Snips
Chapters
Books
Transcript
Episode notes
Live Inside The Question
- Living inside unresolved questions can normalize ache rather than force quick fixes.
- Kate suggests slowing the rush to answers and noticing that unanswered questions make life more honest and ordinary.
Distinguish Momentum From Meaning
- Slow down and notice when momentum is only distracting you from meaningful answers.
- Kate warns that generating to-dos can feel like progress while actually avoiding the discomfort of not knowing.
Year Of Experiments Didn’t End The Pain
- Suleika tried an intensive year-long regimen of supplements, massages, and PT to reduce chronic pain with little change.
- She ran experiments (three massages a week, posture work) and found major effort produced minimal improvement.
