My Autistic Musings ... On Re-Remembering

In this unscripted My Autistic Musing, I reflect on something I return to again and again in post-identification life: re-remembering.

Re-remembering is the gentle, ongoing practice of noticing when we’ve slipped back into judging ourselves through a non-Autistic lens — holding ourselves to expectations that once created external safety, but at a huge internal cost.

It’s the moment we pause, place a kind arm around our own shoulders, and remember: I am Autistic. Things are different for me.

I talk about how easy it is to default to self-questioning, pushing through, second-guessing, and exhaustion — and how re-remembering helps me return to internal safety, regulation, and trust in my own knowing. I also share a small, everyday example from travelling, where honouring my need for space, order, stimming, and comfort brought me back into balance.

This episode is for anyone in that tender post-discovery phase — where knowing hasn’t quite settled into being yet — and where remembering yourself can feel like an intentional act.

If this resonates, you’re not alone. And if you forget sometimes, that’s part of the process too.

Thanks for listening.

A special thanks to Doerte Meyer for the intro jingle and toAbigail Ward for producing the podcast.

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