This podcast explores navigating conflicts with a focus on understanding emotions, healthy resolution, and finding common ground in disagreements. Topics include recognizing patterns, showing empathy, active listening, and mindfulness in relationships. Strategies for improving communication, setting boundaries, and handling emotions during conflicts are also discussed. The episode emphasizes the importance of acknowledging feelings, fostering understanding, and supporting each other in challenging situations.
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Conflict Is Perspective Clash Not Just Argument
Conflict is a difference in perspective, opinion, or wants, distinct from mere disagreement.
Dana Crews contrasts conflict (more emotion) with disagreement (more logic) and notes family modeling shapes how we respond.
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Conflict Avoidance Looked Like A Healthy Marriage
Eric describes a marriage where never fighting looked healthy but masked avoidance and built resentment.
He realized a conflict-free relationship was a red flag that he had been backpedaling to keep peace.
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Focus On How You Disagree Not What
You don't have to agree with someone's perspective; focus on how you disagree and reduce harm.
Dana suggests improving quality of life by improving relationship methods like empathy, grounding, and mindful pauses.
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This week, ADHD reWired welcomes Coach Dana Crews back on the podcast! In this episode, Eric and Dana have a vulnerable and open conversation about navigating conflict, the difference between conflict and disagreements, recognizing emotions, and making space for people we love but may also–at times–disagree with! Find more from Dana: All about Dana at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews (click here!) Second Arrow ADHD Coaching at secondarrowadhdcoaching.com (click here!) ADHD reWired Episode 498: Will I Ever Be Content? (click here!) In this episode, you'll hear discussions and tips about: Is conflict inevitable? What concepts come with conflict? / Thinking about the differences between conflict, disagreements, and avoiding conflict How can we disagree without the intense emotional state that causes more dysregulation? Differences between professional, personal, and family conflicts / Difficulties of transitions and the true size of 'problems' Behaviors based on patterns and experiences even though we're not living in those moments and being stuck living in the past "We don't have to agree with a person's perspective." / It's not WHAT we're disagreeing about – it's about HOW we're disagreeing. The importance of acknowledging the other person's feelings / Can I make space? Can I have empathy or compassion for the other person? Holding space also includes active listening and being present / Mindfulness and grounding to be in the present Stating intent: What is the goal? Is the goal to be heard? To be right? To be understood? To come to a resolution? A compromise? (The three Hs: Do you need to be heard, hugged, or helped?) Getting to a place of collaboration, connection, and trust; a lack of conflict isn't necessarily healthy The power of the pause, non-judgmental awareness, and recognizing one's own tendencies and patterns of behaviors Starting arguments as a way to stimulate the brain / Feeling understood and also feeling heard can also be stimulating Getting stimulus sustainably and healthfully without it being stressful, unhealthy, or a detriment to ourselves or our loved ones Setting boundaries and laying down expectations when needing to take a break to calm down from a conflict / How to come back after taking care of in-the-moment emotions Possibilities of creative problem solving / Acknowledging one's role in a conflict without blaming Stepping out of the content of a conflict and separating the emotion from the story you're telling yourself Identifying and tuning into emotions / "The story I'm telling myself is…" / Avoiding shame & guilt spirals Leaning into emotion vs. pushing away emotion Resources & Honorable Mentions App: How We Feel at howwefeel.org (click here) Article :: Turn Towards Instead of Away (click here) at gottman.com Article :: Crucial Conversations Skill Summary (click here) Book :: Nonviolent Communication by Marshall B. Rosenberg (Goodreads) Book :: Rising Strong - Brene Brown (click here) Website :: The Center of Nonviolent Communication at www.cnvc.org (click here) Information :: Esther Perel: Understanding and Resolving Conflict (click here) How to Resolve Conflict (Esther Perel) Masterclass (click here) Information :: Paul Ekman - Emotions Revealed (click here) 🌟 Interested in group coaching and want to take your ADHD management to the next level? Go to coachingrewired.com to get all the up-to-date information on how to join our award-winning online coaching and accountability groups! 🌟 Interested in 1-on-1 coaching? Learn more and get in touch with Dana Crews at www.adhdrewired.com/coach-dana-crews 🌟 Check out the newest podcast on the ADHD reWired Podcast Network :: The ADHD Creatives Podcast with Kristin Marts, LCSW @ theadhdcreativespodcast.com 🎙️ 🎧
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