Made It Out Just a "Phase" with Ali Saarela
Nov 5, 2024
Ali Saarela, creator of the Just a 'Phase' card game, joins to explore deep connections through quirky questions. She delves into her coming out journey, emphasizing the importance of trusting one’s intuition. Ali shares her early fascination with queer-coded media and discusses her emotional empathy, including how often she cries. The conversation touches on her childhood signs of queerness and defines her pansexuality. With playful banter, they tackle rapid-fire dating scenarios, making self-discovery both insightful and fun!
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Manage Sensitivity With Boundaries
- Expect and accept emotional sensitivity; limit early-morning social media to avoid compassion fatigue.
- Give yourself small boundaries to prevent being overwhelmed by sad content.
Internet Shaped Queer Sex Education
- Ali and Mal agree most people learned about queer sex from the internet, including YouTube, Netflix, and Pornhub.
- Early exposure to lesbian-coded media and porn shaped their curiosity and understanding.
Grow Confidence By Doing Scary Things
- Build confidence by doing the scary thing, like improv or creative classes, even if you won't be perfect.
- Repeatedly facing discomfort proves you can handle new challenges and raises self-trust.