The Examined Life What's your attachment strategy? [Jess Morey]
Jan 18, 2024
"What's your attachment strategy?" features Jess Morey, a meditation teacher and contemplative coach. The podcast explores how our early life experiences shape our attachment strategies and impact our adult lives. They discuss topics such as healing through meditation, applying attachment theory to parenthood, and the implications on talk therapy.
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Attachment Is Preverbal And Somatic
- Attachment patterns form implicitly in the first three years and are somatic, not verbal.
- That makes them hard to change with talk therapy alone and opens a role for meditation.
Be ‘Good Enough’ 30% Of The Time
- Aim to be present, consistent, and reliable as a caregiver about 30% of the time.
- This 'good enough' threshold is sufficient to build secure attachment in most children.
Five Behaviors That Build Secure Attachment
- Protect, attune, soothe, express delight, and champion exploration when caring for a child.
- These five behaviors build safety, curiosity, self-esteem, and exploration.