1KHO 634: Our Souls Crave to be Seen | Toni Collier, Don't Try This Alone

If you’ve ever felt like the “strong one” who secretly wishes someone would notice how tired you are, this episode will feel like a deep exhale. Ginny sits down with author, speaker, and “Still Coloring” podcast host Toni Collier to talk about her new book, Don’t Try This Alone: How to Build Deep Community When You Want to Hide From Your Pain. Toni shares her story of walking through two divorces, betrayal, and deep heartbreak, and the radical difference it made when she finally had a circle of people who knew the whole story. Together, Ginny and Toni unpack the idea of a “confessional community,” what it means to be truly seen instead of just “busy and surrounded,” and why it may not be the pain that takes us out, but trying to carry it by ourselves.

This conversation is packed with practical, courageous steps for building real friendships in adulthood and helping our kids do the same. Toni talks about the bravery it takes to say, “Do you want to be my friend?” again, how to move beyond surface-level small talk, and why even simple moments, chatting with another parent at the park, asking your server how you can pray for them can change lives. You’ll hear tender stories of friends who showed up in tangible, unforgettable ways, how to help kids experience healthy community earlier than we did, and why broken crayons still color. If you’re lonely, exhausted, or longing for your people, this episode will remind you: you were never meant to do this life alone.

Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices