A Life of Greatness Jonathan Van Ness: How to Be More Confident in Who You Are
Feb 16, 2026
Jonathan Van Ness, cultural personality, hairstylist, comedian, author, and Queer Eye star known for advocacy around self-acceptance and living openly with HIV. They talk about humour as a survival tool, growing up othered in the Midwest, finding confidence through cheerleading and hairdressing, the pressures of fame and therapy, and what living openly with HIV means today.
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Comedy As A Survival Tool
- Jonathan learned early that comedy was a survival tool to diffuse bullying and win acceptance.
- He watched specials by Margaret Cho and Wanda Sykes and practiced standup as a kid which shaped his voice.
A Stepdad Who Modeled Acceptance
- Jonathan described his stepdad Steve as a pivotal, nonjudgmental male figure who modelled recovery and compassion.
- Steve sang showtunes with him, taught him practical skills, and showed what a secure relationship looked like.
Confidence Built By Cheerleading
- Cheerleading taught Jonathan discipline, teamwork and helped him overcome a deep fear of going backwards.
- Mastering skills through sheer determination built lasting confidence and lifelong friendships.
