The Simplicity Parenting Podcast with Kim John Payne #73: Helping a Partner When They Need Help With The Kids
Jan 7, 2020
A calm strategy for stepping in when your partner is struggling with the kids. Practical ideas for pre-agreeing a tag-team plan and simple key words to signal help. A polite phrase to join in without undermining authority. Tips on shifting family dynamics by making parenting moments a clear priority.
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Agree On A Simple Signal
- Work out a simple pre-agreed sentence with your partner to use when one of you needs help with the kids.
- Use it kindly so the other parent can join without undermining authority.
Practice The Tag-Team Ahead Of Time
- Plan the tag-team approach ahead of time during a calm moment like a walk or date night.
- Make the agreed phrase normal-sounding so children don't get confused.
Two Adults Change The Chemistry
- Adding a second adult shifts the temperature and calms heated parent–child exchanges.
- That positive triangulation often quietens and rebalances the interaction.