What Actually Improves Your Sex Drive When You're a High-Achiever

Women with super traits know how to get shit done. They are hardworking, loyal, independent, and high-achieving.

Some want better sex and a deeper connection and cannot figure out why it feels so hard. Others say they don't care about sex anymore, but what they're really saying is I don't feel met. I don't feel safe enough to erotically open.

Desire didn't disappear. Effort replaced it. Survival crowds out sensation. Performance crowds out receptivity.

Women with super traits are good at everything else. Careers. Parenting. Emotional intelligence. What they are not great at is sex, intimacy, and vulnerability. Being good at giving, pleasing, and performing is one-sided. If the effort worked, they would already feel deeply connected.

Sex is not a drive. It's a reward system. When pleasure centers are off and receiving muscles are off, even when someone is trying to give, the body cannot receive.

Presence is not a mindset. It is a nervous system state. When sex becomes something you manage, desire shuts down automatically.

If you feel called out in a good way, attend the live workshop on February 5th, where we cover the three most common ways women with super traits erode intimacy and the three shifts required to restore desire. JOIN THE MASTERCLASS HERE

For those ready for personalized clarity, you can also apply to work with me privately HERE. We map your super traits, erotic shutdown style, and relationship dynamics so you stop guessing and start changing the patterns that repeat in and out of the bedroom. APPLY HERE

If you do not know your super traits yet, take the Super Trait Quiz to understand exactly how this is showing up for you.

Why Smart & Successful Women Lose Themselves In Relationships (And why over-functioning and fixing desire never works), on February 5th at 12 PM Eastern and 9 AM Pacific. Register for the free masterclass.

If you are ready for personalized support and do not want to keep analyzing this on your own, APPLY HERE for private coaching.

1:1 Intimacy & Pleasure Coaching with Dr. Jordin Wiggins

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CHAPTERS

00:45 Desire and Relationships 01:25 Presence in Intimacy 01:45 The Struggles of High Achievers in Sexual Intimacy 02:32 Effort vs. Connection 03:38 Pleasure-Centered Sex 05:46 Common Misconceptions Around Sex 06:45 Presence in Sexual Intimacy 09:18 The Shift from Performance to Pleasure-Centered Sex 11:13 Presence in Intimacy and Pleasure 15:00 High Achievers in Receiving Intimacy 27:46 The 3 Shifts to Improve Intimacy and Connection