Listener question: cutting people off?

Listener question: Dear Clare,  I wondered if you could please speak to these words attributed to Sir Anthony Hopkins on a podcast episode? One of my ingrained needs is to be loved and I still notice myself work so hard with certain individuals who are so-called friends to stay included and be liked and yet I expend so much energy doing so. Yet, with others in my life the love is reciprocal, almost effortless and flows naturally between us. Is it not better to face up to the needy behaviours and experience as a gift of revelation for the undoing rather than just stop giving time and effort to more one-sided relationships so that they fade into the ether and I don’t get hurt but yet the conditioning remains? Curious to see your take on Sir Anthony’s words of wisdom. 

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