ICYMI Encore: Nobody Wants to Party Anymore
Mar 11, 2026
Josh Lora, sociologist and creator behind TellTheBees, explores why staying in has become the default. He traces early internet roots, dating app shifts, and how phones normalize anti-social habits. Conversation covers COVID’s impact, cultural messaging that celebrates staying home, and ideas for rebuilding in-person rituals and low-cost public spaces.
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Mainstreaming Of Loserdom Is A Real Cultural Shift
- Josh Lora says the "mainstreaming of loserdom" describes a cultural shift where staying home, avoiding social life, and flaunting it became aspirational rather than sad.
- He collected viral posts showing people proud of having no friends, high screen time, and apparent unhappiness as cultural signals.
How Tinder Ended Meeting People Out
- Josh recounts his own shift in dating after 2015 when Tinder made meeting people online the norm and in-person meeting dropped.
- He contrasts his 24-year-old experience of meeting people out with younger people who say "that doesn't happen" anymore.
Zero Friction Encourages Flaking And Ghosting
- Digital friction removal created flaking and ghosting norms by making it easy to avoid in-person accountability.
- Josh links platforms' ease (RSVP ambiguity, texting norms) to rising anxiety and weaker social expectations.