Conversations Encore: falling in love with a charming fake farmer
Mar 26, 2026
Stephanie Wood, journalist and author of the memoir Fake, tells a true tale of online romance gone wrong. She recounts meeting a charming farmer who repeatedly cancelled and deceived her. The conversation explores catfishing, discovery of a double life, investigative sleuthing and the wider pattern of online manipulation.
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Sweet Online Messages Hooked Her Fast
- Stephanie met 'Joe' online; his eloquent messages and correct grammar initially attracted her and matched her love of country life.
- He painted vivid scenes of farms, sailing and family which led to quick romantic weekends after only a few dates.
Blissful Cottage Weekend Cemented The Crush
- A weekend at a cottage with Joe felt blissful and intensified Stephanie's infatuation despite later doubts.
- Small moments — a tied dog, an axe in a garden shack — blended charm with a hint of unease she later recognised.
Dramatic Cancellation Scripts Created Emotional Hold
- Joe's cancellations followed elaborate three-act sagas rather than simple excuses, heightening Stephanie's anxiety.
- Stories ranged from snake-bit dogs to tipped semi-trailers, each escalating drama and justifying last-minute absence.
