Stop Settling for Almost: How to Actually Get What You Want
Feb 3, 2026
A raw call to stop settling and claim what you actually want. Short, blunt takes on how outside voices shape your desires and why false humility holds you back. Practical prompts to spot your unfair advantage and build the grit to pursue bigger goals. Tips for protecting dreams without cutting people off and practicing asking for what you want more often.
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Own Your True Desires
Wanting more doesn't negate gratitude; it clarifies ambition and brings desires closer.
Les Alfred argues honest admission of your true desires accelerates focused action toward them.
question_answer ANECDOTE
A Pastor's Comment That Shaped Expectations
At 21 Les Alfred recounts a pastor assuming she'd start a family right after college, which planted unwanted expectations.
That early comment illustrated how outside voices can shape desires that aren't genuinely yours.
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Choose Who You Share Big Goals With
Do not rely on people with small visions for guidance about your expansion; seek like-minded support instead.
Protect relationships by choosing who you confide in while continuing to love family who may not yet understand.
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#331: In this unfiltered solo episode, I break down why February is about claiming what’s yours and what it really takes to get what you want. Not the aesthetic version. Not the “manifest and wait” version. The real version: with clarity, courage, discipline, and having that dog in you.
From recognizing your unfair advantage, to building the capacity to hold bigger dreams, to shooting your shot even when you’re scared, I walk you through how luck is actually built through bold decisions, uncomfortable growth, and choosing yourself even when it feels risky
✨ In this episode:
I share personal stories about how early conditioning and outside voices can plant desires in us that aren’t actually ours
Why it’s crucial to get honest about what you truly want (not what you’ve been told to want)
I tell you the truth about “being humble” and why it makes you small
Leaning into your real gifts instead of copying others and why that alignment is key
Why the people closest to you may struggle the most with your growth
How to protect your dreams without cutting everyone off
How to unlock your unfair advantage, shoot your shot and get louder about your desires
If you’ve been feeling a pull toward something bigger but haven’t given yourself full permission to be honest about what you want, this episode is your wake-up call.
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