The SelfWork Podcast

479 SelfWork: Are You Being Judgmental? Two Mental Mistakes That Take You There

Jan 2, 2026
Stories of public shaming and why we so quickly label people based on one moment. A look at confirmation bias and the fundamental attribution error and how they warp perception. Examples show how viral clips and assumptions shut down curiosity. Practical prompts to slow down, gather more information, and talk across divides.
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INSIGHT

First Impressions Form Almost Instantly

  • We form lasting opinions in seconds, often 7–27 seconds, which limits curiosity and growth.
  • Quick judgments can be helpful for safety but often reflect bias rather than truth.
ADVICE

Pause And Test Your Judgments

  • Stay curious and test whether your quick judgments are based on evidence or bias.
  • Use tools like the Psychology Today test to rate and reflect on your judgmentalness.
ANECDOTE

Kristen Cabot's Viral Shaming

  • Dr. Margaret recounts the New York Times piece about Kristen Cabot and the online shaming she endured after a Coldplay concert clip went viral.
  • Cabot faced doxxing, harassment, and abandonment despite not having had an affair, illustrating rapid public judgment.
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