Flirtations! with Benjamin, the Flirt Coach 145. The Loneliness Paradox and the Craving for Connection with Dr. James Ellis
Coming up on this episode of Flirtations, we’re talking on of the most universal experiences we all share — loneliness.
Joining us is Dr. James Ellis, a psychologist known online as @lonelinessdoctor, whose work explores how loneliness shapes our lives — and what it takes to find connection again.
We talk about why meeting people can feel so hard in today, the visible and invisible barriers that keep us from reaching out, and how micro connections - those tiny, everyday exchanges - can actually rewire our sense of belonging.
We also explore how external validation ties into our self-worth, and how the search for connection can sometimes become a search for ourselves — because who we are often reveals itself through what we do, how we show up, and how we let others see us. How we connect with our world.
This episode is about more than just loneliness — it’s about rediscovering the art of connection, one moment, one breath, one flirt at a time.
Let’s do this Flirties, and meet Dr. Ellis!
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About our guest: Dr. James Ellis is a psychologist, speaker, and founder of The Loneliness Doctor. His work explores loneliness as a social health crisis - highlighting the ways in which modern life erodes connection and identifying what it takes to restore it.
Through his writing, clinical practice, and public education, he helps redefine how we understand and heal from disconnection in the modern world.
You can connect with Dr. Ellis on Instagram!
About your host: Benjamin is a flirt and dating coach sharing his love of flirting and BFE - big flirt energy - with the world! A lifelong introvert and socially anxious member of society, Benjamin now helps singles and daters alike flirt with more confidence, clarity, and fun!
As the flirt is all about connection, Benjamin helps the flirt community (the Flirties!) date from a place that allows the value of connection in all forms - platonic, romantic, and with the self - to take center stage.
Ultimately, this practice of connection helps flirters and daters alike create stronger relationships, transcend limiting beliefs, and develop an unwavering love for the self.
His work has been featured in Fortune, NBC News, The Huffington Post, Men's Health, and Yoga Journal.
You can connect with Benjamin on Instagram, TikTok, watch on YouTube, and stream the Flirtations Flirtcast everywhere you listen to podcasts (like right here!), and find out more about working together 1:1 here.