Gentlemen's Collective Podcast #16 - Singles event host reveals exactly how women want to be approached - Ashley Coates
Sep 10, 2025
Ashley Coates, a host for Thursday dating events and TikTok influencer, shares her insights on modern dating. She discusses the transition from dating apps to in-person events, emphasizing the comfort and authenticity they offer. Ashley reveals how to use personal style to create great first impressions and highlights the importance of genuine interactions. She also dives into the differences in dating cultures between Chicago and LA, and how social dynamics play a crucial role in making connections in real life.
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Wait, Breathe, Then Approach
- Don’t rush an approach the instant you spot someone; wait for subtle signals like eye contact and room context.
- Breathe, read the environment, then start with a calm compliment or question.
Events Create Real Relationships
- Ashley regularly gets feedback that her events produce dates and relationships, sometimes lasting months.
- Attendees return to events even after relationships end because the events proved effective earlier.
Market Value Doesn't Guarantee Connection
- Treating dating as a marketplace misses that compatibility varies by person and emotional connection matters more than 'top market' traits.
- Being the ideal on paper fails if chemistry and shared values aren't present.