Listener question: waking up

Listener question: I cannot see how events/conditioning have been put in place for the ultimate purpose of waking us up to what we are. What I understand is that life happens despite me and I do not create my reality. It seems more to me that life is an impersonal, spontaneous synchronicity of events. In other words, every event appears to have an ultimate reason or cause, but ultimately, no event is an absolute unto itself, ever. To say that events/conditioning etc. are put there for the purpose of waking us up to what we are seems to me to personalize what is happening—as long as the need is there to find an ultimate reason for everything, it’s an indication there is a fear of being out of control. Since the knowing “I Am” is already there, who needs to “wake up?” What I understand is that what we are has never forgotten, doesn’t need to remember and does not need to wake up to who/what we are. I understand that it is impossible to understand Self via the mind and once you realize you are not an object “having” experiences, it doesn’t mean you know who or what You really are, but rather, it means you know who You are not. Am i understanding correctly?