And Also With You Christian Motherhood Taboos: Unexpected Pregnancies with Rev. Mia Kano and Rev. Reagan Gonzalez
Oct 13, 2025
Rev. Mia Kano, a part-time Episcopal rector and mother navigating PCOS and prior fertility loss. Rev. Reagan Gonzalez, an Episcopal priest and mother focused on inclusive community ministry. They talk about unexpected pregnancy: the surprise and medical risks, grief alongside joy, humor masking pain, tensions between agency and theology, and how communities can accompany and support people through unplanned parenthood.
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IUD Failure Turned Holy Surprise
- Reagan discovered a surprise pregnancy while using a Paragard IUD and confirmed it with a very dark home test, then faced a two-week medical slog monitoring for ectopic risk.
- She announced with humor (knit baby bonnets and cake for her OB) while juggling fear, daily scans, and spiritual reflection using Madeline L'Engle's poem.
From Fertility Struggle To Unplanned Pregnancy
- Mia had prior infertility, PCOS, and a miscarriage before discovering an unexpected second pregnancy when her son was six months old via a very dark home test.
- The news crashed into grief about physical limits, career timing, and missing presence for her older child, even as she later embraced deep gratitude.
Blessing Can Be Complicated
- Both guests reject simplistic theological claims like "God doesn't make mistakes" and instead frame an unexpected pregnancy as a complicated blessing that allows space to grieve.
- Mia's bishop told her "this is a blessing," giving her a theological anchor without prescribing how she must feel.